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2 Samuel 9:1-13; John 13:34-35
January 26, 2014 • Portage First UMC
Some of the predictions have become legendary. Some remind us that we are often very short-sighted people. When we try to assess a situation or evaluate a person, how often do we simply get it wrong? One man was told he was “too stupid to learn anything” and that he should find a place of work where he might succeed “by virtue of his pleasant personality.” That man, Thomas Alva Edison, went onto create many things we use today, including the light bulb. Another similar man, who had been unable to talk until he was four years old, was told by his teachers that he would "never amount to much.” I wonder where those teachers were when Albert Einstein won a Nobel prize? Abraham Lincoln failed in business, had a nervous breakdown and was defeated in eight elections before becoming president of the United States. Decca Recording Studios did not offer the Beatles a recording contract because “guitar music is on its way out” and the Beatles had no future in show business. Oprah Winfrey was told she “wasn’t fit for television,” and a Yale University professor told Fred Smith, who wrote a paper proposing reliable overnight delivery service, “The concept is interesting and well-formed, but in order to earn better than a ‘C,’ the idea must be feasible.” Smith went on to eventually found FedEx and revolutionize the way packages are delivered.
Famous failures. Spectacular misses. We might chuckle at them, maybe even shake our head in astonishment, but then we might also remember the times when we have been told or when we have believed that we didn’t or wouldn’t amount to anything. Most of us go through times when we believe what someone else has said: that we are worthless, that we are nothing, and that no one has any value for us. For some of us, especially men, we get tied up in our work. Our job becomes, in many ways, our identity. And then the job goes away. We’re downsized, or replaced, or even just threatened, and suddenly our value seems to decrease. If we can’t produce, do we matter? Some of us place our identity with our children, our families. So what happens then when our children stray, when they get in trouble, when there is a breach in a relationship? What happens to our value then? Do we believe the voices we hear? Our worth, our importance, our value—all of this often comes from external sources. We tie up who we are with what we have, what we can do, what we can earn, and many other factors. So what happens, then, when that goes away? What do we do then?
This morning, as we continue our look at the life of David, we want to look at a story that takes place shortly David finally becomes king of all Israel. Throughout these messages, we’ve been looking to see how David lives a life that follows after God’s own heart, how his faith and his trust in God applies in real life, and this morning we want to see how he models the kind of love God has for each of us. Now, David is not some stained-glass saint, or just a picture in the Sunday School book. David is a real man, with real challenges and real temptations, but what sets him apart is that his identity and his value comes from God first and foremost.
Now, when last we met David, he was still wandering in the wilderness, trying to outwit the current king, Saul, who wanted to kill him. Saul, you see, had messed up and had been rejected as king by God, and David had been chosen to be the next king. But, as we’ve looked at the last couple of weeks, David did not try to take Saul’s throne away from him. In fact, he was pretty adamant about not doing that, about not harming Saul. Saul did not return that favor. For a long time, he hunted David in the Judean wilderness, while at the same time fighting against a people who lived along the coast called the Philistines. It was in the midst of one of those battles that Saul was critically wounded. He knows he’s not going to live, but he doesn’t want to be captured and, probably, tortured by the Philistines, so he begs his armor bearer, a man he probably trusted more than anyone else, to kill him. The armor bearer refuses, so Saul summons up the strength and falls on his own sword. The Philistines also managed to kill Saul’s son and David’s best friend, Jonathan, along with Saul’s other two sons. When the Philistines take their bodies and hang them on the wall of the city of Beth Shan to humiliate them, some brave Israelites make a raid and take the bodies down in order to give them a decent burial.
So David becomes king when Saul is killed, and the book of 2 Samuel begins with several chapters of political intrigue and battles between the remnants of those loyal to Saul and David, and once that battle is done, David goes on to defeat the Philistines, to basically reduce them to just a small nation in a few cities along the coast. When that’s all done, David becomes king over all of Israel, and God promises him he will have a descendant on the throne forever. Once David is firmly established in power, the “undisputed king” (Youngblood, “1, 2 Samuel,” Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Vol. 3, pg. 916), we come to the story we read today, the story of a young man named Mephibosheth.
His name means “One Who Scatters Shame,” and since names had great importance in ancient Israel, you have to wonder why his parents would have given him a name like that. Maybe they didn’t. Maybe it’s only later he took that name for himself, because Mephibosheth’s story is not a happy one. He first shows up back in one verse of 2 Samuel 4, where, in the midst of the battle between David’s forces and Saul’s loyalists, Mephibosheth is among those of Saul’s family who decide it’s a good idea to flee the palace. Mephibosheth is five years old at the time, and we’re told his nanny picked him up to run with him, but he “fell,” which I assume means she dropped him as they hurried away from the palace. The end result of that accident is that Mephibosheth’s ankles are both broken. He never walks right again. In their haste to flee, he doesn’t get the medical treatment he needs and he is disabled for the rest of his life (2 Samuel 4:4). Is that when he came to be known as “Shame-Scatterer”? Was that what others told him about himself? He was once grandson of the king, now he’s “Shame Scatterer.” How the mighty fall, so quickly!
Fast forward a few years, Mephibosheth is an adult, still lame in both of his feet, hiding out in a town called Lo Debar, at someone else’s house. A royal son in exile. A king’s grandson in hiding in a place far from the current capital in a town known as “No word, no communication.” Lo Debar was a place where the last of Saul's loyalists had settled, so it’s a place that would feel fairly safe to Mephibosheth. They were out of range of the new king’s word. Or so they thought, until the day when some of David's soldiers show up asking for the son of Jonathan. Can you imagine the fear that must have enveloped Mephibosheth when he's told David has sent people to find him? And yet, what choice does he have except to go with them? He can’t run away. He's not likely to be protected by anyone in town; they may have been loyal to Saul, but they weren’t stupid. It wasn’t worth their lives to try to protect this “Shame Scatterer,” this young man who will never be king. So Mephibosheth is loaded up, presumably on a cart or horse, and taken back to David’s capital, Jerusalem. It seems he is not told anything about what David wants, because when he gets to the palace, he seems even more afraid. It would be expected that the new king would do everything he could to get rid of all of the family of the previous king. I think Mephibosheth expects to die when he goes before David, but just in case he might be able to save himself, he bows down low and pays David honor. Some translations say he “worships” David (9:6).
What Mephibosheth doesn’t know, though, is that long before he was born, David made a promise to his father. They made a covenant, a promise of loyalty and love to each other. Jonathan knew David was his replacement. He knew that David would be king instead of him, and yet he asked David, “Show me unfailing kindness like the Lord’s kindness as long as I live, so that I may not be killed, and do not ever cut off your kindness from my family” (1 Samuel 20:14-15). David had promised Jonathan that sort of kindness, and even though he would have been expected to take out his vengeance on all of Saul’s family, he chose to live by his promise. That’s why he has invited Mephibosheth to the palace—to show kindness to him for the sake of his father, Jonathan (9:1). In fact, he goes way beyond mere kindness and shows extravagant generosity. He gives Mephibosheth back all of his grandfather’s land, puts Saul’s servant Ziba in charge of managing it, and welcomes Mephibosheth into the palace to live. Specifically, he says Mephibosheth shall eat at the king’s table for the rest of his life. In essence, David makes Mephibosheth a son of the king (Birch, “The First and Second Books of Samuel,” New Interpreter’s Bible, Vol. II, pg. 1274). The end of the passage we read this morning finds Mephibosheth continually eating at the king’s table (Youngblood 919). Not a bad life for someone who considered himself a “dead dog.”
Yes, that’s the description he gives of himself earlier in the passage: “dead dog.” That’s what he believes about himself. It’s not enough that he has been given or taken the name “Shame Scatterer.” He considers himself worse than useless. When David tells him what he plans to do, Mephibosheth asks, “What is your servant, that you should notice a dead dog like me?” (9:8). Some will say that’s simply false humility, but I don’t think so. I think Mephibosheth really had come to see himself as someone who wasn’t worth living, someone who was in essence already dead, someone who was somehow less than human. He was the grandson of a deposed king, one who had killed himself no less. He had a less than positive name. He was in the wrong political party for the days he was living in—on the wrong side of the aisle, we might say. He had no land, no home, nothing to his name, and he couldn’t even walk right. He could not remember when he had been well; he had always been lame, always had something wrong with him, always had people pitying him. In his mind, he was indeed just a “dead dog,” of no use to anyone.
And it’s largely because of that that I don’t think David did what he did as a political move. Some commentators suggest what David does here is an example of “keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” David could be seen as putting the last heir of Saul’s kingdom in a place where he can keep an eye on him (cf. Youngblood 919). Perhaps David’s purpose is to put Mephibosheth basically on house arrest. But I don’t think so. David didn’t have to do this. Mephibosheth is really no threat to him at all. He’s lame. He’s not likely to rally an army. No one is going to look to him for leadership. No, David treats Mephibosheth with kindness because he made a promise to his father, a promise that is summed up in the Hebrew word hesed. This is not a move that’s about power; it’s about honor, loyalty and faithfulness. It’s about valuing Mephibosheth as a real person. And more than that, it’s about doing what God would have David do.
We’ve talked about that word hesed before. It’s a word that is difficult to translate, because its meaning is so much bigger than any one word. Some of your Bibles will translate it as “lovingkindness,” a compound word that was basically created to try to define this huge concept. The best definition of hesed is this: when the one who owes you nothing gives you everything. When the one who owes you nothing gives you everything. Think about that for a moment. Hesed is about loyalty and love, about honor and faithfulness. It’s not about power, and it’s not about equality. It’s about mirroring God’s love for us into the world, helping people see themselves as God sees them. Hesed is about justice and righteousness. It’s about doing what is right, not just what benefits us, not just what benefits a small group. It’s about loving another person just because they are, not because of what they have done. In the Old Testament prophets, who preached many years after David, later kings are routinely called on the carpet because they fail to practice hesed. They fail in the area of faithfulness, in doing what is right for all the people (Goldingay, 1 & 2 Samuel for Everyone, pg. 138). Too often, we think “justice” is what will benefit us. We measure “justice” and “righteousness” by our own standards. But in the Bible, those concepts are always rooted in love, in covenant faithfulness. And, most of all, they are rooted in the way God loves us, dead dogs that we are.
You see, we are Mephibosheth in this story. We may not be physically lame (or we may be), and we may not have an unpronounceable name, but we are all Mephibosheth. We come here, and we stand in the presence of a king who could destroy us. We stand in the presence of a God whom we repeatedly offend because of our sin. We are “Shame Scatterer,” just about as useful as a dead dog in his presence. We forget that. We too often treat God as a buddy, or the being we’ve created in our own image. Because the most popular idol in our culture is ourself, we don’t like to think this way. We come to worship and we seek to create a God whom we like, who thinks like us. “The God we seek is the God we want, not the God who is. We fashion a god who blesses us without obligation, who lets us feel his presence without living his life, who stands with us and never against us, who gives us what we want, when we want it. We worship a god of consumer satisfaction…” (Labberton, The Dangerous Act of Worship, pgs. 120, 127-128 iBooks version). One of the reasons Christians often neglect the Old Testament is because we have this idea that the Bible presents two gods: an Old Testament god of wrath and a New Testament god of love. But the reality is this: the Biblical God is both. He is the God who could fry us. He has the power to do with us as he pleases, just as David did with Mephibosheth. So why don’t we bow down to him in worship and honor like Mephibosheth did toward David? Why do we tend to re-create him in our own image, to think he won’t hold us accountable? The other side is true as well, though. God always acts with hesed toward us because he chooses to. He is the one who owes us nothing but gives us everything. As my Old Testament professor, Dr. John Oswalt, put it: “The God who could fry you loves you.” That’s the amazing thing Mephibosheth learns. The king who could kill him shows love toward him, values him. Mephibosheth knows David doesn’t have to show him kindness, and yet David still does. And even though God doesn’t have to love us, he still does. He loves us enough that he sent his son to save us from our sins, to make it possible for us to be with him one day. He is the king who could destroy us but instead makes a place for us at his table—and invites us to dine there forever. Just because we are, we’re invited to the king’s table.
You know, it’s been sort of a rough week around here. Between Pastor Deb and I, we’ve had four funerals this week. We both started and ended the week saying goodbye to people we loved. And sometimes when I lead a funeral, I sort of think about and wonder how the person whose life we are celebrating reacted the first moment they saw the King’s table, the place we’re told no one can really imagine (cf. 1 Corinthians 2:9; Revelation 19:19). I try sometimes, to imagine it that is, and then I begin to wonder if that’s why the Bible tells us we will worship constantly in the kingdom of God. When we see what God has prepared for us, our only response can be worship, bowing down as Mephibosheth did in front of David. That’s part of why I love that song, “I Can Only Imagine,” because it reminds me that I can’t really begin to imagine what God has prepared for those he calls his children.
On the last night Jesus spent with his disciples, those disciples didn’t realize it but they were, quite literally, sitting at the King’s table. Jesus had gathered them for one final meal before his crucifixion, and when you know you have only a short time let, you tend not to focus on trivia. You want to talk about and share only the most important things. And so, that night, around the King’s table, Jesus shared many things, and he reminded the disciples, his best friends, that he loved them beyond anything they could imagine. Meanwhile, those same disciples were busy fighting about who was the greatest, who loved Jesus more (cf. Luke 22:24). Can you imagine them sitting around the table saying, “Jesus loves me best”? Their identity, their value was tied up in what others thought of them. Like we are so often, they were in the presence of the one who loves them without condition, and they’re focused on themselves, on their position, on their “greatness.” As Jesus sits there at the table, he shows them his love for them, but it’s clear they haven’t yet really let Jesus love them. He knows them, but they've failed to know who he is. It’s a little bit like this. Take a listen.
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When we only know about Jesus rather than knowing him, experiencing him, we’re cutting ourselves off from real life. And yet, that’s where so many are today. There are a lot of folks, even people in churches, who know about Jesus, who know about the King, but they don’t know him. There are a lot of folks like Mephibosheth, who know about the king, but don’t really know him. I wonder if that's any of us here today. Jesus offers us unconditional love, love with no strings attached, something we can get nowhere else in our world. Even though we are like “dead dogs,” to use Mephibosheth’s language, he loves us still, and he invites to come and dine at the king’s table. When I was growing up, my pastor used to often say that he did what he did in order to make sure that people didn’t end up 18 inches out of God’s kingdom. That’s the distance, roughly speaking, from head to heart, from knowing about Jesus to knowing Jesus, to having a relationship with him. It’s sort of like when I went off to college, and my next-door neighbor in the dorm invited me to go into town with him. I didn’t have a car (freshmen couldn’t have cars on campus then), but he knew someone, this girl, who had a car because she lived off campus. That I was the first time I met Cathy. And I heard about her, and I learned some things about her, but I can’t imagine my life if all my knowledge about Cathy had stayed in the head. Eventually, I asked her to go to a movie with me, and even though she asked questions during the movie (she’s learned not to do that, though my kids haven’t yet), I still asked her out again. And I came to not just know about Cathy but to know her because we spent time together. We learned to love each other. My knowledge of her moved from head to heart. That’s what it means to have a relationship with Jesus. We spend time with him at his table, reading the Bible, worshipping with other Christians, and praying. There comes a point, then, where we have to decide to move from our knowledge about Jesus to knowledge of Jesus. From head to heart. Experiencing first-hand his love, his invitation to come to the table and eat forever. Do you know Jesus or do you just know about him?
That last night he was with the disciples, Jesus showed them, John says, “the full extent of his love” (13:1, NIV 1984). He knelt down and washed their feet, and he told them to do the same to others (13:14). Through acts such as that, Jesus said, others would know that we are his followers. Our response to the extravagant love he has poured out on us is to show love in practical acts of servanthood to others. That was King David’s attitude from the beginning. The very first question he asks in this chapter is this: “Is there anyone still left of the house of Saul to whom I can show kindness for Jonathan’s sake?” (9:1). Who can I show kindness to? Who can I show love, hesed, to? The way we demonstrate that the love of Christ lives within us is to turn around and love the Mephibosheths of this world, to love those who may be overlooked, who may be forgotten, who might even be someone we don’t like all that much. No matter what they do to us, we’re called to love them.
When we were in Israel in 2012, one of the things I was most looking forward to was an evening excursion underground, being able to see the original walls of the Temple mount, the walls that King Herod built to make the Temple complex larger. At the Western Wall, you can see some of those stones, but much of the original wall is now underneath other stuff. So we came at dusk to go through the tunnels, and our guide approached the guards, showing them our tickets, but they refused him entrance. They told him we would have to wait for no apparent reason. Mike, our guide, walked back over to our group and commented, “This is why I don’t like coming here.” Mike, you see, is a Palestinian Christian. He is a native of Jerusalem, which makes him a citizen of Israel, but even within that nation, there is a sharp divide between those who have power and those who do not. The guards decided they would push Mike a little bit because he isn’t “one of them.” To them, he’s a Mephibosheth, an outcast. It’s hard for us—at least I hope it’s hard for us—to imagine such treatment, but there it was, right in front of us. Eventually, we did get to go through the tunnels, and I was impressed that Mike, who could have responded in anger and bitterness (it obviously wasn’t the first time he had been treated this way), chose not to. Instead, he chose to respond in a loving manner.
David reminds us that no one is really a “dead dog.” Everyone matters, even the Mephibosheths of the world—especially the Mephibosheths of the world. Who can I show kindness to? If we have received the love and the welcome of the king, our calling is then to share that love and that welcome with others. And that’s hard. It’s very hard, sometimes. There are people who are hard to love. There are people we don’t want to love. That’s why Jesus didn’t give us a choice. He didn’t say, “Love others if you want to, if you feel like it.” No, Jesus said, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (13:34-35). He didn’t say, “A new suggestion I give you.” He didn't say, “Here’s a good idea, what do you think?” He gave us a command. And commands aren’t only followed when you feel like it. Commands are followed until new orders come in. So far, our calling hasn’t changed. To follow Jesus is to love the outcast, the stranger, the enemy, the one you don’t like, the one who irritates you to no end, the Mephibosheths.
Don’t you imagine that there were days when Mephibosheth only reminded David of all that he had lost, of the loss of his best friend, of the many years he lost as we wandered in the wilderness trying to avoid Saul? Do you think there were days when he was tempted to throw Mephibosheth out on his ear? I do. You see, I love this story because I need it. I love this story because it reminds me of my calling to love the Mephibosheths of the world. I love it because it reminds me that no matter what happens to me, I’m called to love the “unpromising stranger” and to keep loving that person no matter what (cf. Peterson, Leap Over a Wall, pg. 179).
Tony Campolo tells the story of walking down the street in Philadelphia about noon when he noticed a bum walking toward him. The man was covered from head to toe with dirt and soot, and there was dirt caked on his skin. He had a beard that hung down to his waist with food caught in it, and he was holding a cup of McDonald’s coffee. He was staring into the cup as he walked toward Campolo, when suddenly he looked up and said, “Hey, mister, you want some of my coffee?” Campolo says he really didn’t, but he also didn’t feel he could reject the man’s generosity, so he accepted a sip of the coffee. When he handed the cup back to the man, Campolo said, “You’re being pretty generous, aren’t you, giving away your coffee? What’s gotten into you today that’s made you so generous?” The old man stared into Campolo’s eyes and said, “Well, I figure if God gives you something good, you ought to share it with people!” Campolo smiled, thinking he’d been set up. He figured the next thing was that the man would ask for five dollars in return from the coffee. “I suppose there’s something I can do for you in return, isn’t there?” he asked. The man said, “Yeah, you can give me a hug!” Campolo said he would have rather given him five dollars, but he put his arms around the man, and they stood there for what seemed like forever. Tony Campolo in a suit, the bum in ragged clothing, and just as Campolo began to feel really uncomfortable, he heard in his heart the words of Jesus: “If you did it to the least of these, you did it to me” (Tell Me a Story, pgs. 29-30). He might just as easily have heard the words from John’s Gospel: “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (13:35).
How will you respond to Jesus today? Will you let him love you, let him welcome you to the King’s table? Will you let him tell you who you are rather than others? And will you love others in response to his love, no matter what they are like? Will you love them just because they are? Every time we love like that, the kingdom of God grows. Let’s pray.