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Matthew 1:18-25
December 1, 2013 • Portage First UMC
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He sat there, in the ashes that had been his life. Everyone he knew was gone: either they had died or they had deserted him. He could still remember the day when his world had come to an end. His children had been killed in a horrific accident. His fortune, carefully tended over a long period of time, disappeared in an instant when the market crashed, and his property had caught fire and burned to the ground before the fire department could get there. He might have been tempted to wonder, “What’s next?” except that, aside from his own life, he had nothing left to lose. Even his wife had disowned him. She told him how stupid he was and walked away. So there he sat, and then came the mysterious illness. No one knew what it was, but even if they did, he had no money left to get treatment. The illness was painful, but that pain was dull in comparison to the ache in his soul. No money, no job, no family. If he had any strength, he might have ended it all. But he didn’t. He just sat there, staring into the distance.
He had no idea how long his three friends had been there before he noticed them. At some point, they had just come up to him, joined him and sat there silently. They brushed flies away, made sure he took a drink of water every once in a while, but otherwise, said nothing. They just came to be with him, because he was their friend. And they may have been his last three friends on earth. He was grateful for their presence. It meant the world that there were people who just wanted to be with him (cf. Job 2:11-13).
Now, if you’ve read much of the Bible, you might recognize that as the story of Job. The book of Job struggles with what it means to suffer, and while it doesn’t provide any answers, it does give us this image of the three friends who sit with him for a whole week in silence. They just come to be with him. I’ve said they did their best ministry in that week when they were with Job. After that, they open their mouths and it all goes downhill fast. But for a week, they just came to be with him. We all need friends like that, and maybe you’ve had friends like that. Every time we’re in a desperate situation, we need friends who come alongside and are just there. We know they have no answers. There usually aren’t any answers. But we just need someone to be with us.
When I was in the hospital nearly fifteen years ago with my heart surgery, I remember one day in particular when one of my closest friends made the drive down to Indianapolis just to be with me. Cathy was at the hospital much of the time, but she also had a four-year-old boy to take care of, so when my friend walked through the door, I was so grateful. If you’ve been in the hospital, you know how long those days can be. And we talked about various things, but mostly he just came to be there with me and didn’t even mind when I dozed off. The same sort of thing has happened when we’ve had deaths in our family. I can’t tell you how much it means when friends walk in the funeral home or church, and though they can’t fix it and may not even know what to say, they’re just there. They’ve come to be with us. That becomes so important in times of grief. And there are another times when I’m struggling, and a friend will say, “Hey, let’s go get some lunch.” Not to talk about what was troubling me, but just to be there. To be with us. Those times make all the difference in the world, and I’m betting right now you’re thinking of times in your own life when there have been people who came to be with you. Take a moment and just picture those folks in your mind. What did it mean that someone wanted to be with you?
Now, imagine that that “someone” is God. Imagine that God wants to be with you. Richard Foster once talked about his intense study of the whole Bible, and what he learned above all else. He put it this way: “Through Scripture we heard God whispering down through the centuries, ‘I am with you.’ ‘I am with you.’ ‘I am with you.’ Then, we heard God asking a question that searches the human person to the depths: ‘Are you willing to be with me?” (Life With God, pg. vii). Perhaps at no other time of the year do we hear that theme so clearly as we do during the Advent season, these four weeks in which we prepare for Christmas, the celebration of Jesus’ birth. But Advent is not just about shepherds and angels and a baby in a manger. It’s also about the promise Jesus made that he would come again, that as he came in humility the first time, he would come in victory and triumph the second time. Advent is meant to prepare us for both comings, to shape our hearts as people who are ready, willing and able to be with God as seen in Jesus Christ.
This Advent, we’ve chosen some of the carols of the season as a “starting point” for our preparations. The devotional we put together will cover many more carols than we can on Sunday mornings, but your daily readings will work together with Sunday worship to help us sing our way into this holy season. And to begin, we start with a hymn from the middle ages that echoes so well the cry of the Scriptures: “O Come, O Come Emmanuel.” You’ve already heard its words: “O come, O come, Emmanuel, and ransom captive Israel…” The song has seven verses, each of which celebrate Jesus by a different name: Wisdom From On High, Lord of Might, Root of Jesse, Key of David, Dayspring, Desire of Nations, Emmanuel (UMH 211). The words of the carol go back to ancient times, when monks would use them during the last week before Christmas to remember who Jesus is (in fact, Roman Catholic and Anglican churches still use this song that way), but actually the words are older than that. They’re all rooted in the Hebrew prophets, those preachers of old who saw the coming of Jesus centuries before he arrived. This is Biblical language, so if the words seem strange to us today, it’s most likely because we live in a world so unacquainted with those ancient seers, those prophets. The words of this carol were chanted in Latin in medieval monasteries until they were translated into English sometime in the 1800’s by a man who used his “spare time” to rescue ancient songs so that they wouldn’t be forgotten. When it was first published in a hymnal, the notes indicated that the tune came from “French sources,” although no one could trace down what French song it was based on. It wasn’t until much later when someone discovered that the translator had “borrowed” the tune from a 15th century French funeral hymn.
Now, that seems rather odd, doesn’t it? This song we sing to prepare ourselves for Christmas and to usher in Advent began as a funeral tune? But the more I thought about it, the more it seems appropriate. There is a certain amount of dying that has to take place if we’re really going to be able to welcome the baby of Bethlehem. Certainly Joseph got that, and it was a difficult decision for him. Matthew tells us the Christmas story from Joseph’s perspective. Though Joseph says very little, we learn a lot about him just in the way Matthew tells the story (cf. Augsburger, Communicator’s Commentary: Matthew, pg. 28). We know he is a righteous man; he was “faithful to the law” (1:19; Card, Matthew: The Gospel of Identity, pg. 28). But we also know he wasn’t all about law, or just following the rigid application of it. If he were, he would have demanded that Mary be stoned, killed. You see, that’s the penalty prescribed in the Old Testament for a woman who was found to be pregnant by another man. Even though Mary and Joseph weren’t yet fully and legally married, they were “betrothed” or “pledged to be married,” and though we think of that as an “engagement,” it was a lot stronger than our idea of engagement. To break off a betrothal required a divorce, and for Mary to (it seemed) have slept with someone during that time was considered adultery. Mary has been “found” to be pregnant, Matthew says, which probably means nothing more than her belly is starting to show. At some point, she has told Joseph her incredible story—that the baby within her is the result of the work of the Holy Spirit, that she hasn’t been unfaithful to him. But Joseph can’t believe her. He’s a builder, a very practical man. He needs to see the proof, the evidence, and the evidence is that Mary is pregnant and he knows he’s not the father. So, legally, he could call for her death and the death of her unborn child, and he would be justified in doing so. No one would condemn him. So why doesn’t he? If he’s “faithful to the law,” as Matthew says he is, why doesn’t he apply it rigidly now?
It’s because his passion for the law, for righteousness, is tempered or mixed with a love for Mary. He is a man in whom both truth and grace dwells, which is, of course, why he was the perfect foster father for the one who would be described by John as “full of grace and truth” (cf. John 1:14). Joseph was more concerned about what the loving thing to do was than the purely righteous thing. So because “he did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her” (1:19). A simple, quiet breaking of the bonds between them, and they could both get on about their lives. That was Joseph’s plan. It was righteous and loving and, in his mind, the best thing for both of them. He couldn’t raise a child that wasn’t his. But he couldn’t harm Mary, either. Truth…and grace. And with that in his mind, Joseph went to bed.
Have you ever had one of those nights where something was on your mind so heavily that you couldn’t get away from it, even in your dreams? I know I have, and I’m sure you have, too. Now, we know from Luke’s gospel that an angel appeared directly to Mary to tell her she was going to become pregnant (Luke 1:26-38). But for some reason, when the angel appears to Joseph, it’s in his dreams (1:20; cf. Card 28). Maybe it’s the name. Like his namesake in the Old Testament, Joseph is more likely to listen in his dreams. Maybe he’s like a lot of us. In the daytime we’re too busy and too occupied to be able to hear from God, and the only time we’re quiet enough to really listen is when we’re asleep, when our body has stopped. That’s when God is able to break through. So the angel comes to Joseph as he sleeps, and gives him what will turn out to be a life-changing message: “Do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins” (1:20-21). And then Matthew, the narrator, reminds us that this was to fulfill a promise made long ago by the prophet Isaiah: “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (Isaiah 7:14; 1:23).
What’s in a name? For the Hebrews, names indicated something about the person, what you hoped they would become. And Jesus, in this passage, is given two names. The first name, “Jesus,” was a fairly common name in those days. It meant, “God saves,” and the Hebrew version of it is Joshua or Yeshua. So many boys in that time were named after the one who brought the Hebrews out of the desert and into the Promised Land, the great leader who followed Moses. And the name’s popularity spoke to the eager anticipation of the people at the time. They were looking for someone who would save them from the Romans, from the taxes and brutality of the government, someone who would come in and give them their freedom. They were looking for a military savior, a political messiah. So they named their boys “God Saves” and hoped that one of them would be the one. “Jesus” was a common name at the time, but “Emmanuel” was not. No one else was given the second name Matthew mentions (Wright, Matthew for Everyone, Part One, pg.8).
Emmanuel is actually more than a name. It’s a promise. It’s a hope. It’s the fulfillment of all the hopes and dreams of the people of God because it means, as Matthew tells us, “God with us.” In Jesus, all the hopes, all the prophecies, all the aim of God’s working with we human beings comes together in one person. In Jesus, God comes to be with us. We don’t know if Joseph made that connection in his dream or not, but we do know that the next morning, Joseph had changed his plan. No longer was he going to divorce Mary. Instead, he takes her as his wife—which means he also has to bear the disgrace of taking her son, perceived as illegitimate, as his own—and he heads into an uncertain future. I’ve got to think he probably wondered if the dream was real or not, but if there was a chance that this baby in Mary’s womb was Emmanuel, was “God with us,” Joseph was willing to risk it all—his profession, his reputation, even his own life—to help it come to pass.
Remember I said how the tune for this carol was originally a funeral hymn, and that anticipating Emmanuel requires us to die? This is what I was talking about. Joseph had to die to all those expectations, all those hopes and dreams in order to provide the way for Emmanuel to come. Joseph had to give up his rigid dependence on the law and on what he thought was righteousness in order for Emmanuel to come, in order for God to be with us. He and so many others would have to die to their expectations of what the Messiah was supposed to be in order to receive what God really had in store for them. Joseph, after the angel spoke to him, was willing to die to all of that because he knew that the ancient promises were being fulfilled. His prayer that day was: “O come, O come, Emmanuel…whatever it takes, come and be with us.”
God longs to be with us. That’s why Jesus came. That’s why one of his names is Emmanuel—God with us. God wants to be with us—the question is will we be with him. Are we, like Joseph, willing to do whatever it takes this Advent season to be with him? And maybe, more to the point, is this: what do we have to die to in order to be with him? Advent comes every year, and every year it’s a struggle, isn’t it? We come to church and we say in our spirits we’re not going to let the reason for the season disappear, we’re not going to be overtaken by the commercialism of modern American Christmas—and then we go home, and live in exactly the opposite way. And when Christmas comes, we’re tired, worn out, and barely have enough energy to think let alone to worship. Perhaps, for some of us, what we have to die to are some of our traditions, some of those things that don’t bring life, even the ideal of a perfect holiday. Do we really need to buy all of those gifts? Does more stuff equal more love? We may need to die to our own expectations and some of our plans, just as Joseph and countless others had to do when the Messiah, the savior, finally came. Perhaps for God to be with us, we have to let some of those other things go.
We may also have some emotions or feelings that need to die or be let go of during this year. Perhaps we’ve been angry with a family member, or had a broken relationship that needs healing. The one who is being born in the manger, who is growing in Mary’s womb even as the angel speaks to Joseph, is the one who is the healer, who longs to bring shalom—wholeness—to each and every life. There are people who remain bitter through the holiday season—I know, because my wife is a counselor and sees her load increase this time of year. What if we let go of that bitterness, those hurts, the woundedness we carry around like a badge of honor, and allowed God to come near, allowed Emmanuel to bring his healing grace? For us to be able to approach the manger, to truly see the one who is Emmanuel, maybe we need to call that family member we haven’t talked to in two years. Maybe we need to seek reconciliation as Jesus calls us to. Whatever blocks the joy of the season—isn’t it worth letting that go to be with God?
Joseph also had to let his own preferences die. Things were not going to go the way he wanted, and Matthew lets us know that in a rather graphic way. He tells us that, even after they were married, Joseph and Mary did not consummate their marriage until after Jesus was born (1:25). Roman Catholic tradition takes that even further, stating that Joseph and Mary never consummated their marriage, thus making Mary a perpetual virgin, but there’s nothing in the Scriptures to necessitate such a belief. There’s nothing indicating that, after Jesus’ birth, Joseph and Mary had anything other than a normal marital relationship. In fact, there are historical indicators that they had children after Jesus. But be that as it may, Joseph had to, at least for a time, say “no” to his own desires, his own preferences, so that God’s work could be done, so that Emmanuel could be born, so that God could be with us. What are some of the preferences you have to say “no” to? Pastor Deb talked about some of the season-specific ones last week, but I’m thinking even beyond the season. For the last couple of weeks, we’ve been talking and talking a lot about what everyone wants in a new church building over at Crossroads, and I’ve not even heard all of it, but I know that to do everything that everyone wants will not only be cost-prohibitive, it’s simply impossible. People have different and conflicting preferences. I also know people feel strongly about their preferences when it comes to a building. But remember the reason we are moving ahead with this project: it’s to help others know that God is with them. It’s to allow those who are not yet here to encounter Jesus Christ, to come to know Emmanuel. Are we willing to let our preferences die for the sake of the greater good of the Kingdom of God? Because it’s not about us; it's about Emmanuel. It wasn’t about Joseph; it was and is about Jesus, Emmanuel, God with us. That’s what salvation is, after all—God being with us and us being with God, coming near to God, becoming more like him each day (cf. Augsburger 29). Emmanuel, Savior—God with us!
Giving up, dying to those things that stand in the way of us being with God—that’s scary stuff, which is, I think, at least part of the reason the angel begins with Joseph and with Mary, and eventually with the shepherds, by saying, “Don’t be afraid” (1:20). Literally, “Fear not!” It’s a command, not a request. Don’t be afraid, don’t fear, because what is coming is so much better than what you have now, you wouldn’t believe it if I told you. So trust God, and don’t fear, because God is coming to be with you in every circumstance of life. He is Emmanuel, the one who is with you, in the highs and the lows, in good times and bad, in victories and defeats, in life and in death. God is with you, so there is no need to fear. There is nothing any circumstance or any person can do to you that God can’t overcome. Paul said the same thing in his letter to the Romans: “I am convinced,” he said, “that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39). So don’t be afraid. Whatever you have to die to in order to draw near to Emmanuel, it’s worth it. It’s worth every moment of it. “O come, O come, Emmanuel…disperse the gloomy clouds of night and death’s dark shadows put to flight.” He is Emmanuel, God with us, and he has come.
On the world’s darkest night, the one who is Emmanuel knew that the darkest day was yet ahead, and so he gathered his closest friends together and told them to not be afraid (cf. John 14:1). And he gave them a meal that would remind them and all those who would come after them, down the halls of more than two thousand years of history, that he is with them. The bread and the cup not only remind us of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross. They remind us of his presence with us even today. The same one who came as Emmanuel would, before he returned to heaven, assure his followers that he would be with them always, even when they couldn’t see him (cf. Matthew 28:20). And so it is today. This bread and this cup remind us of his presence, remind us that he is Emmanuel, and call us to remove whatever we need to in order to experience God with us. He so longs to be with us, but he will not force his way in. What do you need to lay down at the altar this morning in order to truly sing, “O come, O come, Emmanuel…come and bring healing, hope, light and life this Advent season”? Come to the table, knowing he longs to be with you always.