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Luke 23:26-35
February 25/26, 2012 • Portage First UMC
INTRO VIDEO WEEK 1
There are certain things I am a bit particular about, and one of those is the way my music is organized. I have a certain way of arranging my CDs so that, when I need a particular one, I can find it. When Christopher was just starting to crawl, I learned pretty quickly how fast babies can get from one place to another. I hadn’t left him alone in the room very long, and when I left he had been playing with his toys on the other side of the family room. When I came back, he was giddily pulling my CDs off the rack. He was surrounded by lots and lots of shiny plastic boxes. I looked at him, he looked at me with a big smile on his face, and I did what every parent would do: I snapped several pictures. Now, I could have yelled at him. I could have gotten upset, red in the face, and punished him. But what good would that have done? After all, he didn’t know what he was doing. As far as he was concerned, these shiny plastic boxes were just more toys that, for some reason, Dad hadn’t let him play with yet. So he was helping himself. Now, if he tried that today, I probably wouldn’t be snapping pictures. Then, he didn’t know what he was doing. He knows better now…I hope. I thought of that when I read this evening/morning’s Gospel reading, because the the first of Jesus’ last words from the cross is this: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (23:34).
Today is the first Sunday of Lent, a season of forty days set aside by the church to prepare for Easter. It’s meant to be a time when we try to better understand what happened at the cross so we can better appreciate the resurrection. In earlier days, it was a time when people who had separated from the church were welcomed back into the fellowship. Still today, it’s a somber time, celebrated in many different ways in many different traditions. This year, as we seek to better understand what Jesus did on the cross, we’re going to pay particular attention to the final words he uttered from the top of that cross. These “words” are short statements recorded across all four Gospels; no one Gospel has all seven, but taken together, they give us a picture of those last hours of Jesus’ earthly life. There are varying opinions as to the order in which Jesus spoke these, and since we don’t really know for sure, we’re going to follow the traditional order over these next six weeks (Hamilton, Final Words, pg. 11). I hope you’ll be studying along with us in the FISH groups that start this week. The seven final words will take on a greater depth as you wrestle with them in that small group setting.
Now, I mentioned that these final words were all short statements. In fact, they had to be short. The nature of crucifixion demanded they be short. Crucifixion, you might remember, was one of the worst forms of death ever dreamed up. The Roman Empire did not invent crucifixion, but they perfected it and used it as an instrument of punishment and a tool of terror. The punishment began long before the nails were driven. Usually, a man who had been convicted of a crime serious enough to deserve such a cruel and painful death was beaten—flogged, they called it—nearly to death (Card, Luke: The Gospel of Amazement, pg. 256). Tt was said forty lashes would kill a man, so often a condemned man received thirty-nine. In Jesus’ case, he was also mocked by the Roman soldiers as they put a crown of thorns on his head and a robe on his raw, beaten back. Then prisoners were given their own crossbeam to carry through the streets out to the place where they would be killed. Because they had been beaten, this was painful and difficult. The distance from the Roman fortress to the probable location of Calvary was about a third of a mile (Hamilton, 24 Hours That Changed the World, pgs. 88, 96). Not that far. Most of us could easily walk that distance, but not if we’ve been beaten nearly to death and then had a crossbeam that probably weighed around a hundred pounds put on our backs. No wonder Jesus needed assistance. Luke says a man named Simon of Cyrene carried Jesus’ cross out to the hillside (23:26).
The horror of crucifixion, and the cause of death, was not the nails put through the wrists and the feet. Crucifixion was actually death by asphyxiation. The prisoner, in order to breathe, had to push up on the nails and gasp for breath, and when the pain of that became too much, they fell back down on the nails. Eventually, they would become too weary to push up and die from lack of air. It was a brutal, disgusting dance: up and down. And when they pushed up for air, there was only a brief time in which to say anything. You’ll notice, as we go through these final words, that they tend to get shorter as we get closer to Jesus’ death (Hamilton Final 16).
Once Jesus is on the cross, the people begin mocking him (23:35). You may remember that, contrary to the way it’s usually pictured in movies or artwork, crucified men weren’t that far off the ground. Jesus was certainly close enough to be able to hear what was said, the rude comments and the mocking conversations. “He saved others but he can’t save himself!” “If he is who he said he is, he should be able to get off that cross by himself!” “What a lousy excuse for a Savior—ha!” Loud, critical, sarcastic, mocking words. How would we respond to such attacks, such cruelty? I don’t know about you, but when I overhear something like that, there’s this darkness that rears up inside me that either wants to defend myself (on my good days) or strike back (on my bad days). If I was in the kind of pain Jesus was, I might just try to ignore them or keep silent. And yet, with some of the little strength left in him, Jesus pushes up on the nails holding his feet and says, loud enough for people around to hear, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (23:34). That’s not what they expected him to say. Most men in his situation were shouting curses at the crowd. Jesus, instead, utters a word they need to hear: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (cf. Wright, Luke for Everyone, pg. 284).
Jesus is really affirming a universal truth: we don’t know what we are doing. I think Jesus had something bigger in mind than just the fact that these folks in the first century didn’t realize or didn’t acknowledge that it was the son of God they were nailing to that cross. I think he was focused on something beyond the horrible injustice of that day. In many ways, Jesus’ statement is a summary of human history— we do awful things to each other and towards God because we don’t know what we are doing. The mob there at Calvary, the Jewish leadership, the soldiers—well, they were just doing their job. They were standing up for justice. They were supporting good family values by getting rid of the one who threatened to undo their way of life. Besides, it wasn't their fault. They were just doing what their government told them to do (Willimon, Thank God It's Friday, pg. 3). It's been the same since the beginning of time, hasn't it? Way back in Genesis 3, when God comes asking Adam and Eve why they did the one thing he told them not to do, Adam blames Eve, Eve blames the serpent, and the serpent blames God. The brokenness and sin that bring Jesus to the cross happen because we don't know what we are doing—or rather, maybe better said, we don't realize the full implications of what we do. We think it's just fun. We think no one will get hurt. We rationalize and we strategize and we silence the voices that tell us it's wrong. Jesus is right—we don't know what we are doing.
Into that world, into that mess, comes this shocking first final word from the cross: "Father, forgive them." It's not shocking at first because we're used to Jesus saying such things. I mean, he had talked about forgiveness on any number of occasions. Jesus strongly emphasized the need to forgive our brothers and sisters “from the heart” (cf. Matthew 18:35), from the depth of who we are, not just on a shallow level. And he said he had authority to forgive sins, a right the religious leaders believed God alone had (Mark 3:10). After the resurrection, he tells the disciples they have the power to forgive: “If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven” (John 20:23). And, at the beginning of his ministry, Jesus told his followers, “If you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew 6:14-15). Wow! Jesus’ “message was one of free, unmerited forgiveness to any repentant sinner, without qualification—to be followed by exceedingly exacting standards for discipleship” (Anderson, The Teaching of Jesus, pg. 75). When the woman caught in adultery is forgiven, Jesus tells her, “Go, and sin no more” (John 8:11, KJV). So we should have expected this word from the cross, and yet what is most shocking about it is what doesn’t happen.
Standing there at the foot of the cross are several groups of people. There are the soldiers. Many of those same men, just a short time before, were torturing, beating and mocking him. Now, Luke tells us, they are arguing about who gets his clothing (23:34). They begin to gamble over cloaks and undergarments and they offer him sour vinegar to drink (23:36). For them, Jesus prays, “Father, forgive them.” Not far away are the religious leaders. They are the ones who asked for Jesus’ death, who arrested him in the middle of the night and convicted him in an illegal kangaroo court. They’re mocking him, and they’ve even told the Roman governor they would take responsibility for his death (Matthew 27:25). For them, Jesus prays, “Father, forgive them.” A bit further back, perhaps, is the crowd. Maybe there are some in that group who, just a few days before, hailed Jesus as a king come to conquer Jerusalem. Almost certainly there are some there who once believed he was God’s Savior. Now they’ve turned on him and called for his death. For them, Jesus prays, “Father, forgive them” (cf. Hamilton Final 18-19). And there are the disciples. Not many. Most are in hiding. But a few are there. We know at least John was there, along with Jesus’ mother. They are weeping, partly because they have, over the last 24 hours, all betrayed Jesus in a variety of ways, both obvious and subtle. And for them, Jesus prays, “Father, forgive them.” Do you notice what is missing? Not a single one of these people asked Jesus to forgive them. And even more than that, not a single one of them, at this point, is expressing any sorrow or remorse or regret for what has happened or for their part in it. Jesus prays for their forgiveness before they even ask for it.
This is what Bishop William Willimon calls “preemptive forgiveness” (6), and he suggests that this is listed as the first final word because it is preemptive. Before anyone can ask for forgiveness, Jesus is granting it. From the cross, Jesus is showing us that there can be no new relationship with God if forgiveness doesn’t come first. “Forgiveness,” Willimon writes, “is what it costs God to be with people like us who, every time God reaches out to us in love, beat God away” (6). Preemptive forgiveness is, in reality, the only way to deal with our primary problem—our sin and rebellion against God. A lot of people think the Gospel, the story about Jesus, is all about the “don’ts”—what we don’t do. It’s about making people feel guilty for the ways we fail. It’s about dwelling on sin. And yes, sin must be dealt with, but on the cross, the first way Jesus chooses to deal with it is through preemptive forgiveness, offering us forgiveness before we even ask for it. “The central focus of the Gospel,” writes Adam Hamilton, “is grace and God’s mercy…Sin is simply the diagnosis. The Gospel’s focus is on the cure” (Final 21, 23). Jesus offers the cure even before we’re willing to admit that we’re sick. And in doing so, he sets the pace for all of us.
It’s not a pace we want to follow, though. Most of us are repelled by the idea of preemptive forgiveness. We want those who have hurt us, who have offended us, who have sinned against us to hurt themselves. “I don’t get mad, I get even,” we say, or worse, we seek to strike back bigger at the other person. And we certainly won’t forgive them until they come to us, preferably groveling, and ask us to forgive them. The problem is that, like those folks at the foot of the cross, very often those who hurt us don’t think they’ve done anything wrong. They’re just doing their duty. Or they’re doing what they think is right. And most of the time, they’ve moved on while we’re still stewing about what happened. If we always wait for the other person to ask for forgiveness, how often is that resolution going to come? Early in our marriage, Cathy and I had an issue with a family member, and when we attempted to talk it out, we got nowhere. We got the usual excuses and rationalizations. Now, I’m not saying we were perfectly innocent, but we had been hurt. And I wanted the other person to know that, and I wanted them to hurt as well. So I waited for them to come to me. And you know what? To this day, they never have. I’ve come to believe they never will, but in order for that not to poison my own soul, I have to offer forgiveness to them even if they never realize the hurt they have caused. “Father, forgive them.” When Jesus tells us that the Father won’t forgive us unless we forgive others, I don’t think he means that God somehow withholds forgiveness—certainly not if we take this picture of Jesus offering preemptive forgiveness seriously. I’ve come to believe, rather, Jesus is reminding us that those who are forgiven must become forgiving people. If we fail offer to others the great mercy and grace we ourselves want to receive, we block our ability to fully experience forgiveness. Forgiveness can never be earned or deserved anyway (Anderson 109). That’s why Jesus, in his first final word from the cross, shows us the way: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (23:34).
We have a misguided idea of what forgiveness is. We’re often told you’re supposed to “forgive and forget,” but the Bible says that’s what God does, that he remembers our sins no more (Jeremiah 31:34; Hebrews 8:12). But here’s news you may not know: you are not God. God did not wire us human beings to be able to forget easily. So forgiveness is not forgetting. Nor is forgiveness putting ourselves back in a place where we can be hurt again. Sometimes we’re led to believe that if we’ve really forgiven someone, we’ll try to put things back the way they were. But that may not be safe. Take, for example, a woman who has been abused by her husband or boyfriend. She can get to a place where she forgives him for what he has done, but aside from a miracle of transformation in his life, it would most likely not be safe for her to go back into that same situation. The same is true for someone who hurts us emotionally or spiritually. Forgiveness does not mean putting yourself back in that person’s life. The best thing for both of you may be to maintain a distance. Forgiveness is also not found in making excuses for the other person. You know how we do this. Someone wrongs us or hurts us and we shrug it off, saying, “Oh, that’s just the way they are. You know how they are.” Or we tell others (and try to tell ourselves), “It’s no big deal.” And we avoid talking about it or dealing with it. We tell ourselves that if we had really forgiven them, we wouldn’t think about it anymore. That’s not forgiveness. That’s excusing, and C. S. Lewis said forgiveness and excusing are “almost opposite.” Certainly Jesus was not making excuses or ignoring what his executioners and those standing around the cross had done.
So what is forgiveness, then? Forgiveness is choosing not to actively remember. By that I mean we get to a point where the hurt and the pain and the wound no longer defines us, no longer controls who we are. I knew a man who had a promising career, and then made a mistake large enough that not only was he let go from his current job, he was done in that business altogether. And even as he entered a new career and took a job that paid well, he found it difficult to let go his feelings of anger and hurt over being fired. His self-identity was the man who was fired. Even though the mistake was his, he struggled to forgive both himself and his former employers. Or some people, when they go through the trauma of divorce, continue to define themselves by that event. The anger and bitterness toward the former spouse or toward the courts for the decisions that were made never seem to dissipate, and forgiveness isn’t even on the radar. As long as we define ourselves by our hurt, by our wounds, forgiveness can’t be experienced. Forgiveness is choosing not to let that wound be who we are. And ultimately, forgiveness is about our own spiritual health. It’s about not being eaten up from the inside, not becoming someone we don’t want to be. That’s why Jesus models preemptive forgiveness from the cross, because that person who hurt you might never ask for forgiveness, and yet if we want to be whole, if we want to be healed, we have to find a place where we can forgive that other person in order to experience more deeply God’s grace and love. It’s important to note, though, that when Jesus, after the resurrection, tells the disciples they have the power to forgive, it’s tied to the gift of the Holy Spirit living within us. The Spirit of God gives us the power and the ability to forgive; it is not something we somehow conjure up on our own. It takes much prayer.
For me, that takes repetition. My wife can affirm that I’m a “stew-er.” When something is bothering me or I’ve been hurt by someone, I stew about it…over and over and over again. Not that stewing does any good. It doesn’t. In fact, in my own experience, it can make it more difficult for me to forgive that person. And even when I get to the place where I can forgive them, there sometimes comes a word or a situation or a spark of some sort that takes me right back to that moment of anger and bitterness and frustration and unforgiveness. And at that point, I have to choose if this is going to control me or not.
Jesus was once asked how many times we should forgive someone; you may remember the story from Matthew 18. Peter wants to know how many times he should forgive someone. “Up to seven times?” he asks. And Peter was being generous there. The rabbis taught you should forgive someone up to three times, but not a fourth (Carson, “Matthew,” Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Vol. 8, pg. 405). Jesus responded, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times” (Matthew 18:21-22). Or, as some translations have it, “seventy times seven.” The point is the amount is not important. We are to keep forgiving because it’s healthy for us and for the other person. Shakespeare recognized this in a famous scene from the play The Merchant of Venice. The character Shylock wants to pursue justice—or revenge—against Antonio but Portia pleads with him to consider mercy—forgiveness—instead.
The quality of mercy is not strain’d,
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath: it is twice blest;
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes
(qtd. in Hamilton Final 30).
Shakespeare knew this truth: when we offer forgiveness, when we offer mercy, as Jesus did, not only are we blessed, but so is the one who receives it. And rather than depleting our reservoir of forgiveness, we find it is enlarged. For the one who forgives finds himself or herself the recipient of an even greater forgiveness.
“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” This final word from the cross reminds us of our need to forgive and to be forgiven, because we do not know often what we do. Our sin blinds us, and so we give and receive forgiveness and we are then twice blessed. But there is one more thing that is striking about this final word. Of all the things Jesus could have said out loud, why this? I mean, I’m fairly certain that, all throughout the crucifixion there was an ongoing conversation within the Father, Son and Holy Spirit that we don’t hear. In fact, Bishop Willimon says at this moment we get to overhear a conversation that takes place deep within the Trinity (1). Why these few words out loud? I think it’s because the people gathered there at the foot of the cross needed to hear it. They needed to know they could still find forgiveness, that Jesus had already forgiven them even before they asked for it. I wonder, sometimes, if any of them thought about that moment later in their lives. We don’t know where Luke heard this; he wasn’t an eyewitness, so someone was impacted enough by this moment to tell him about it. Jesus said it out loud because they needed to hear it. And so do we.
We need to hear the words “I forgive you” on a regular basis. Our tendency is to blow it off. “Oh, it’s no big deal, don’t worry about it.” But we need to hear that we have been forgiven. Our children need to hear that they have been forgiven. Our spouses need to hear that they have been forgiven. Our co-workers and those who hurt us need to hear they have been forgiven, because it’s in that moment that the Gospel shines forth most brightly. Huston Smith, a scholar of world religions, was once asked what the most distinctive characteristic of the three great monotheistic religions is. He said that for Judaism, it’s the centrality of family. For Islam, it’s the importance of prayer. And for Christianity, it’s the power of forgiveness (Willimon 10). Through the giving and receiving of forgiveness, we proclaim that the Gospel is true and that it has made a difference in our lives.
So let me ask you: as we begin this Lenten season, who do you need to forgive? What situation is eating away at your soul? For this season, we have set up this cross in the sanctuary as we have in some past seasons, and today I’m going to ask you to consider who it is you need to forgive, and then write their name on the slip of paper that’s been included in your bulletin. In a moment, we’re going to pray over those names, and invite you, during the final song, to bring those names up and nail them to the cross as a sign of your commitment to work during this Lenten season on not letting that situation define your life anymore. You may not be ready this morning to nail that name to the cross, and that’s okay. This should not be approached without prayer, and that’s why the cross will be here until Good Friday. You can nail names to it at any time, even during the week. But on Easter, the cross will be gone, and so will all the names we’ve nailed to it. Who do you need to forgive? Let’s pray.
Father, forgive them. Father, you know their heart, and you know my pain. I pray for those who hurt me. Forgive them, and heal me. Amen. (Hamilton Final 33).